Tuesday, February 28, 2012

False Humility

How often do you hear someone who did something well (or at least thought they did) give over-the-top credit to someone else? The response from those around is the same, people smile uncomfortably because intuitively we all know something isn't quite right. Either the person who's giving all the credit away is sincere, yet clueless to their contribution or they are lavishing praise on the other person to actually position themselves as a great humble, person.

None of this false humility is any good. Why not be totally honest and accurate? Maybe you did a good job and another person played a key role? Say that. Maybe you did all the work and the other person is your boss or client and was asleep at the wheel. Gently focus on the positive part of that and say nothing negative as to embarrass. Maybe the other person actually is completely responsible for the success. Make it clear.

False humility is just that, false.

Barry LaBov
LaBov & Beyond
www.labov.com

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