Giving Too Much

We beat ourselves up for not "giving enough." Not enough focus or care or effort or whatever. That little extra would've made the difference. Sometimes that's true.

But we can also give too much. Too much attention or time or resources or whatever. Sometimes people need to stand on their own and if we give too much, we're actually hurting them.

Another nasty byproduct of giving too much is that when you do that, you have expectations. You expect the person to do well or to appreciate what you've done. If neither of those happen, that can cause even more trouble.

Barry LaBov
LaBov & Beyond
http://www.labov.com/